ITS JUST ONE DAY

I hate talking about one thing, this topic gets alot of misunderstanding and I don’t enjoying sharing ideas or points about the topic. I’m talking about racism, this is a hot topic currently where people are being exposed for being a racist or people apologizing for being caught for being a racist. So please understand this is a touchy subject for me too, and the only reason I’m posting about this is because today marks the second #blackpoundday and people are pissed about. And I am equally pissed about their stupid egotistical reaction to it.

So this is my ted talks on the matter, enjoy.

If you don’t know by now, I’m of African decent and I grew up in Britain so I have all my life been told how I should think, look or behave. How that my African culture does not fit the narrative of Britishness, and I need to sound more British and less African, or my hair is too “nappy” to be seen out and the only way to solve this is to chemically straighten my hair. Or when you experience an injustice that clearly indicates that you’re late at the starting point because your peers have an unfair advantage, you’re told to deal with it and work harder. So you put your head down and do that, you work harder only to discover you’re still behind.

So when I learned about the #blackpoundday I was excited because finally, an aspiring author like myself can finally get the starting advantage that alot of my white peers have had. Then I see the ignorant tweets on twitter calling this great cause racist, what’s racist about it? That black people finally get one day to catch up to close in the large wealth divide? Or that on just one day, people who don’t normally shop at black owned businesses can have the opportunity to discover that these businesses even exist. What deeply sadden me was the fact people took this initiative from a beautiful cause into hateful one.

Black pound day is about finding out there is always an alternative to the other bakery, women’s clothes store, stationary or male’s grooming businesses. As a black person I constantly hear “black people need to do better to help they community”, and when we do its greeted with disapproval. It’s like they’re saying “how dear you improve your community without us”. Funny thing is, these businesses are not exclusive to just black customers. The main issue here is that black owned business are always over looked over white owned. What black pound day aim is to highlight those businesses that will be overlooked by white owned businesses and give them a chance.

I ask you to give to give non white businesses a chance, and if you can especially small (white and black) businesses. You are definitely helping grow a dream, bring wealth to family and eventually help grow a struggling community like the black community.

This has been my ted talks, thank you for reading it.

Love and light

Wambui Kibira

THE START OF SOMETHING NEW

I’m planning on migrating my content from this blog to visual content, in the next 8 weeks I will be sharing videos of the that type of content on this space and after that I will stop uploading on this blog indefinitely.

So please subscribe to the YouTube so you can continue to watch the visual content.

I leave you with this light hearted video.

Until next time.

Wambui Kibira

IS MY SON NEXT.

I took a break from writing, reading or listening about anything current. I hate that in 2020 we still have to say this. Those haunting two words Rosa Parks immoraltised, “I’m tired”; truth be told I am tired. I am tired of turning up, working double hard, dressing like I didn’t just commit crime, making sure constantly I speak “proper” (like what does that mean), I’m tired that I cannot even embrace my beautiful African culture and frame without someone calling me ghetto. But I am mostly tired for my son, at just 3 years he’s noticed who looks at him different. He’s realised the adults mummy’s age smile at him, the younger notice him with a smile but the older ones…they seem to despise him. I tell him “always hold your head up, never let anyone make you drop your crown”. That’s alot of information for a little boy to grasp, and I cannot believe I have to say those things to my children. I honestly thought I will have to wait til they were at least teenagers, when their identity is challenged. I guess this is the prize we have being blessed with melanin.

The point of this post, is a good one. I’ve seen the change that’s happening and I’m impressed. It’s given me a new sense of hope, that my children will eventually and finally grow up in a world where they are judged by the context of their character and not skin. Just like Martin Luther King Jr’s dream, that is my dream too; it would be nice for the world to fully appreciate children raised to love God and worship Him. I wouldn’t want my children to have to deny their God given personality (Jeremiah 1: 5) because people fear their exterior.

With the hopes to contribute in ending racism, I would love to share with you books that have helped me navigate my understanding on racism and how to be an anti-racist. But I would like to share a scripture that also helps me deal with racism. Which is found in 1Peter 4: 8 ESV “Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins”. So here are the 4 books I would recommend my white friends:

  1. How to Be less stupid About Race. By Crystal Marie Fleming
  2. Natives. By Akala
  3. Why I’m No Longer Talking to White people About race. (this one is a click bait title don’t let it put you off) By Reni Eddo- Lodge.
  4. How to be an Antiracist. By Ibram X. Kendi (this is next on my list I’ve soon great things about it so I’m excited to start it).

There you have it the 4 books I would recommend you to read if you are interested to understand more about race and racism. These books are on audible, it’s been a great source during these time because the last book is sold out everywhere. So Audible as been real convenient, with one credit I have a book for just £6.99 a month. By the way, this isn’t sponsered lol I just love audible.

Until next time,

Blessing and love

Wambui Kibira

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RESPECTFUL PARENTING

I’ve been meaning to open this blog to video content, videos that have calming content. Calming enough to mediate on and you can also learn from, so today’s the day I introduce you to a video a few months ago.

ENJOY!

Until next time, stay blessed loved and highly favored.

LESSONS LEARNED FROM NETFLIX SHOW “LOVE IS BLIND”.

If you haven’t seen the show that has everyone hooked on Netflix, then I invite you out of your rock and watch this brand-new reality brought you by Netflix.

I was hooked instantly; I feel in love with the concept of falling in love and getting engaged before even setting your eyes on the person. As a single woman, this is music to my ears, and as a BLACK single woman this is an orchestra to my ears serenading me to music pleasure. In simple terms I loved every episode and I’m not shy in admitting I watched again (four times).

Very rarely I learn from the shows I watch, so when I do, I ask myself “why”? Love is Blind has taught several things about myself and I would like to share with you those things, maybe the show has also taught you something about yourself.

  1. YOU NEED TO BE READY: (SPOILER ALERT) If you haven’t seen the finale, then you need to pause this watch it and come to this video and hear this. Both Amber Pike and Lauren Speed were ready for Matt Barnett and Cameron Hamilton, Lauren told her friends she had prayed for Cameron and Amber was ready to settle down after years of living just for herself. They were ready for the commitment of inviting someone else into their lives for good.
  2. Barnett and Cameron were both ready too: They both had their own places, although Barnett’s place was just a one bed property. Amber was happy to start life there and move on whenever the kids turned up. Cameron on the other hand had a whole 3 bed house; he was ready to be a husband and start a family. Guys, women want to see this- vision. Someone who has vision for the future, unlike the other three yes, they have jobs, but they never showed us their prospective homes. Where are you moving the girls guys? At least Mark was brave enough to show Jessica his flat share, but he shouldn’t have bothered. Really Mark? A flat share, will Jessica move in with you?  
  3. All connections were based on where each person was in life, if your vibe is just to have a good time chances are the “Barnetts” and “Camerons” are wasted on you. Why Mark and Jessica never got married because they both were not ready for marital commitment. They seemed to only want to have a good time, Giannina and Damien seemed ready, but were they?  They seemed they were well suited but needed more time in their relationship but Giannina was not ready to commit to such an adult relationship.
  4. STAY TRUE TO YOURSELF: Lauren and Amber were both true to who they were and got their men. So did the other ladies, but it both Lauren and Amber that taught me to accept who you are the way you are, and “your” person will accept you too. In simple terms, be yourself ALWAYS.
  5. PRAY FOR YOUR PERSON: It’s your person, that’s it. Cameron is for Lauren and Barnet is for Amber and vice vasa. You want to get married, pray for the person who will specifically fit into your life. I can honestly say I cannot handle Cameron’s affections or Barnet’s indecisiveness.

That’s its guys, the 5 lessons Love Is Blind has taught me. Hope you enjoyed this new format of videos; I’m trying something different on this channel.

Please subscribe I’m planning on introducing scripted content and I wouldn’t want you to miss any of them. Please share, like it helps me a lot to get noticed and comment what you liked about the content.

Until next time

Stay blessed, loved and favored

SELF DOUBT!!!

DAMN!!! I always do this, I always start strong and then……, BLANK! Nothing, I stop uploading, I stop creating and most importantly I stop sharing. I honestly believe that noone cares, to read or to follow.

So I took a time out for nearly a year, it was unplanned but I wanted to truly be sure that this is my space.

I have and I am now committed to this space, how that sounds like a “I want you back”. Anyways, there are changes to this blog. And that is the obvious name change and logo; I present to you “Kingdom Mama”. It’s still Wambui Kibira writing this but now I want to hand over this platform to the awesome hard working women known as the Christian mums. I want to have a space where Christian mums have a space where they can tap into the well of God so that they can continue their calling in raising their children with Godly standards.

So, what I’m trying to say is that I want this space to be more about Christian mums than myself. I want this space to be about us.

Hence why I am keeping this short, but in the meantime why not subscribe to the Kingdom Mama and make sure you are also following me on Instagram (The Kingdom Mama), I post alot of encouraging posts and affirmations.

Until next time,

Stay blessed, stay beautiful and stay happy.

Wambui xoxo

Let’s talk about it.

I have a son…a black son. Though he is only 2 years old watching this Netflix series pained my soul. I knew about this case back in 2016 when President 🙄 Donald Trump declared his interest in running for office. I remember being angry then, and when the words that I read 3 years ago became live; that anger came back. It’s been a week since the feature aired on Netflix and I’ve been crying since and even had nightmares if that was my son.

It seems dramatic and for some of you who choose to read my words, scary. But this is our reality, that one black boys will grow up in a society where they will be seen not only as thugs but as blood thirsty monsters who are only out to do harm than good. These are the same people who will quote Martin Luther King Jr’s famous “I had dream” speech, but not the ENTIRE speech- because I guarantee they wouldn’t quote the whole speech from start to finish. These are the same people that will blindly convince themselves that these 5 boys had something to do with the rape in question. They would refuse to accept that the evidence does not place the young innocent boys in the crime scene. That even a novice police detective new to his/her job would have found these 5 boys innocent.

What happened to these young boys 30 years ago, was sad and painfully unbelievably real. How the head of a rape detective unit went on a mob justice like witch hunt to find justice for the poor white woman. They were feed into an hungry pack of wolves, and because of their innocence they were pull apart into pieces by a justice system that does not care about them or their families. And to imagine that the prosecutor- Elizabeth Lederer, who praises herself as a highly intelligent, extremely detail oriented, superbly organized attorney. Most definitely saw that this boys were innocent. But she couldn’t lose, she wasn’t going to lose. So together with Linda Fairstein, decided that these young innocent boys were guilty and will make the little shred of evidence they have fit each and every glove for the boys wear. This was undoubtedly a witch hurt.

What makes it worse is how both women went on to have successful careers, Linda Fairstein a best selling author 🙄 and Elizabeth Lederer went on to become a Law lecturer. All while these boys were in prison serving time for a crime they didn’t commit and refuse to admit to.

What this case has taught me is how far society is willing to judge a person by their character. These boys came from good homes, but not the police, the prosecuting lawyers, the judge, the jury and the media saw that. What they saw were thugs, they made them to look like they hated white people and that’s why they raped the woman. All this because they possibly couldn’t be bothered to look for the rapist- which by the way confessed to the rape. But Linda and Elizabeth still to this day believe the boys were involved in the gruesome rape.

I fear I will have to teach my son that the world in which he was born in, does not favour his success and that he will have to work twice as hard and as fast as his white peers. And that the system he was born and bred in was never created for him or his sister. Just because a group of people think of you as a thug and no good, you must remember as long as you have breath every morning then God has a good good plan for you. Hold your head up, and rise above the hate and live the life your maker wants you to live. But also remember do not at any means necessary give racist people a reason to think you as a thug.

“Obama” 😆😉 their racial bais up.

Until next time,

Stay positive, stay humble, stay encouraged.

Wambui xoxo